I have really been trying to reach out to people face to face but sometimes that can be intimidating and hard. So I also look on the internet or use apps. Here are some of the best that I have found:
Meetup.com has been a great resource, because if you google “find groups in my area” you will mostly get support groups for various physical and mental ailments. That’s great and all but not what I’m actually looking for. Meetup.com, on the other hand, is actually what I need. I can search for any type of interest and find groups of people near me who care about it too. I can see a calendar of events and pick and choose what I want to attend. I can talk to other members of the group as well. This is how I found my volunteer work group and it has been really wonderful. The people are nice, the work we do is appreciated, and it makes me feel really good. I get to focus on something besides college and how homesick I can be. And I think a lot of the participants in the group feel very similarly. A lot of them are far from home too. You don’t have to use it for a volunteer group, though. You will find everything from playgroups for kids to adventurous activity groups to bar crawlers to book clubs. If you’re not in a heavily populated area, you may have to drivea ways to find your people, but where I am is pretty centralized. There is a lot of stuff here. I am lucky in that way.
My school also has a searchable club and organization database that I can search to find out when and where the meetings are held. I haven’t had quite as much luck there but I am still trying. I am in one group for my major that is very active. They do a lot of study groups and discussions, so while it can be useful, I find it can sometimes be…unappealing to do. Some of the other clubs I have been to, the students are very…intense, I think the word is. They are big fans of the topic and have a hard time with people who are casually interested and really just want to get out of the dorms. Other clubs were more work than I had hoped they would be, and I cannot let my social life ruin my academics.
I have had the best dating luck, if you want to call it that, using either Zoosk or Match.com. I have met up with a few people that I was matched to through those. It has been interesting. I have not been matched with too many duds yet. One, maybe two that were a bit boring. Some I don’t continue to pursue romantically but would like to keep as friends. I have met at least five nice guys this way. They are good for going to a movie with or a telephone call every once in a while. Or even going out to dinner or something.
Well, that’s it for today. I have another match to email. Thanks for reading!